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Why would anyone want to have anal sex?
For many people, anal sex is the ultimate taboo. Buttfucking makes
it sound crude and dirty, sodomy sounds technical. In the 1990's,
anal sex has been given the bad rap because HIV, the virus that
causes AIDS, is most easily transmitted by anal intercourse.
But some people love anal sex. Others hate it. Others haven't tried
it yet and are curious. And many people are attracted to it
precisely because it's so taboo and mysterious.
Should you or shouldn't you engage in anal sex? There is no
right or wrong, it's just a matter of taste. While anal sex is
prohibited in some societies and often considered by the morally
pure and righteous to be something dirty. Of course, for those
who only tolerate or prefer to avoid sex, it's as likely to happen
as flying to the moon or winning the lotto.
But lets face it, lots of people are doing it, not only gay men, but
regular people, from all walks of life. Anal sex adds variety to
any sexual relationship.
The anus is an erogenous zone, well supplied with
nerves (has half the nerve endings in the pelvic region) so touching generally feels good
and many people find touching it to be sexually arousing.
If you do, Remember; NEVER GO DIRECTLY FROM ANAL TO VAGINAL SEX or ANAL
TO MOUTH as both these acts can cause SERIOUS HEALTH PROBLEMS and YOU MUST BE IN
CHARGE and be able to say STOP.
So how do you do it? Assuming you have a caring partner who
will stop when you say stop, proceed slowly. During oral sex
or regular intercourse, let him touch and insert a finger until
you become accustomed to the sensation. If it's ok introduce 2
fingers, or if he has a small penis, use extra lube and let him
enter a little, then if it feels uncomfortable, wait and relax until
you are comfy, then he can enter further.
There are many ways to enjoy the anus erotically. The most common
techniques include touching the anal opening while masturbating or
stimulating a partner's anus during intercourse or oral sex.
Some people enjoy the sensation of a finger - their own or a lover's
- insinuated into their anal opening and gently rotated. Others may
prefer the insertion of a dildo or vibrator beyond the anal opening
and short anal canal into the larger rectum. Many men, including
hetereosexuals, prefer this form of penetration.
Oral-anal lovemaking is popularly known as rimming. The very idea
disgusts some people. Others enjoy
performing
it or allowing themselves to be probed in this special way.
Sex Toys are popular for anal stimulation as they allow more
precise control and yes this girl (pictured) loves her butt plug
though it does not quite fit all the way in.
Care must be taken so that the penis/sex toy does not transfer
from the anus to the vagina as this can transfer bacteria to the
vagina that may cause health problems. When switching condoms must
be changed and/or everything washed clean, then resume.
There are many ways to enjoy the anus erotically. The most common
techniques include touching the anal opening while masturbating or
stimulating a partner's anus during intercourse or oral sex.
Some people enjoy the sensation of a finger - their own or a lover's
- insinuated into their anal opening and gently rotated. Others may
prefer the insertion of a dildo or vibrator beyond the anal opening
and short anal canal into the larger rectum. Many men, including
hetereosexuals, prefer this form of penetration.
Oral-anal lovemaking is popularly known as rimming. The very idea
disgusts some people. Others enjoy performing it or allowing
themselves to be probed in this special way.
Clear the Way
Before having anal sex, the woman should have a good, complete bowel
movement. If she doesn't, the man may find himself encountering far
more fecal matter than he might have liked (i.e. packing the fudge).
Now, for some people doing this on-command might not be the easiest
thing, and straining to defecate is not healthy. A high fiber diet
may help things along and is good for your health in any case.
Of course, if you really want to clean things out in a hurry, you
can purchase an enema from any drug store. There's some controversy
about this; some people feel having an enema first can actually
increase the irritation during anal sex. If you're going to go the
enema route, we'd recommend doing it several hours before you plan
to have anal sex, rather than right before the act. (Porn stars
usually have a high colonic treatment prior to anal sex).
Analingus
Licking the anus. Although we haven't mentioned safer sex yet as part of
this series, we will here: the anus and rectum carry many diseases
that live quite benignly in your lower digestive tract, but which
can be harmful in your mouth or stomach. Performing anilingus is a
very risky behavior for a variety of bacterial infections. Refer to
the section on safer sex techniques for ways to protect yourself if
you or your partner enjoys this activity.
Does anal sex hurt?
Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. With
enough lubricant and enough patience, it's entirely possible to
enjoy anal sex as a safe and fulfilling part of your sex life.
However, some people may never like it, and if your lover is one of
those people, respect their limits. Don't force the idea upon them.
Can anal sex actually give pleasure?
The pleasure of anal sex is derived from many things. Doing
something "nasty" appeals to many people, especially about sex.
Doing something different to spice up a sex life that has become
something of a bore can be part of it. And the physical sensations
available during anal sex are uniquely different from anything else.
The rectum is lined with nerve endings, some of which signal the
brain to 'reward' you with good feelings when stimulated. For men,
the prostate gland can be a source of powerful pleasure. And for a
thrusting penis, the ring of the anus can be a new and strong
sensation to enjoy.
What do I need to have anal sex?
The most important pieces of advice anyone can give on anal sex are:
lubricants, condoms, and patience. The most commonly available
lubricant is KY-Jelly, a greaseless, odorless substance available at
most drug stores. Better lubricants include Astroglide, ID, Wet, or
ForePlay, some of which are available at better drug stores, and
most of which are available in some form at adult toy stores.
Do not buy anything that is oil-based. Make sure the lubricant you
buy is rated "condom compatible." Nothing else will do. Oil-based
lubricants such as vaseline or baby oil will destroy a condom long
before you're done having sex. And many oil-based sub-stances will
coat the lining of the rectum, providing a haven for many potential
infections.
Do I have to use a condom?
Even if you're sure that both you and your partner are disease-
free, you should still use a condom. The rectum is home to lots of
infectious bacteria that can cause burning and urethritis of the
penis. It will also help you clean up afterwards.
What positions are best for anal sex?
Many
women want to be on top, to regulate how fast penetration occurs.
Other like to lie on their stomachs, or crouch doggy-style, or to be
penetrated while lying on their sides. Experiment and see what you
prefer.
As always, control yourself. Take your time and use lots of
lubricant. People who like anal sex say that "too much lube is
almost enough." Listen to her -- if she tells you it starts to hurt,
back off.
Eventually, a time will come during your lovemaking where her anus
will relax enough to allow the head of your cock to 'pop' into her.
If she is completely relaxed, that pop should feel completely
painless. Now just because you're inside her is no reason to start
pounding away like mad. Let her body adjust. Take your time.
Eventually you will both be ready for more.
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