Life is politics,  there is no avoiding it,  no matter where or who we live with.   As we all live in communities of some description and as such all negotiation over how we get on, over who controls, who earns, who provides what, who spends, who maintains etc., are life's politics (beyond the election of government).

As we live in a time of change where most people live as wage slaves, bound to their 'ism' and lifestyle. The world is also a changing place, and this puts pressure on relationships as we try to figure out how to live to the best advantage.

Of course today we may know what we want, and have a future mapped out to create a life and a lifestyle,  but world politics often intrude,  jobs go or change, children grow, partners stray etc.

Now with sex in our face much of the time in the media,  in our desires and hunger for success and security.  With gender equality growing, life is not as simple, we must be more awake to not only cope, but to achieve our desires.

In the politics of relationships, the landscape is also moving,  once when getting married, she had to be a virgin, while it was ok if he was not.  Unfair? of course, but that is how it was and still is for many,  but with women competing with men in the market place,  this is less of an issue.

Even with dating,  do you have sex on the first date?  Do you remain faithful?   How many dates before your get married?  When married should you remain faithful?   Lots to decide...  It is interesting to note that all these points are a matter of agreement.

Should you save virginity for the marriage bed?
Virginity is somehow seen as very desirable, symbolizing the girl has waited for her true love.... And to be fair some girls do find their knight in shining armor who will sweep her away to a happy life.  Many however find that the man is very experienced and they are at a disadvantage in experience.  A consolation for many is that childbirth will move them to a new level or understanding. In some in some societies any promiscuity by women, it is an offence punishable by death,  barbaric and inhuman really but still exists...

What do we think?
We think that virginity is pointless, better that each has a balance of sexual experiences (10 - 20) or lessons before marriage, then there can be better understanding of one's own body and sexual responses, so that when entering in a relationship, there can be sexual understanding and better communication in the relationship.

Sex on the first date:
There is no consensus on this.  A symbol of purity and the traditional attitude in Western society has been that if you do, you're to easy and may get a bad reputation and because boys like to brag,
No, if you are not into him/her, ok,  or is this a control strategy, many girls seem to enjoy turning guys on and then disappearing...

More to follow.